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Of Effort and Naruto Figures

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I have been eyeing this piece of Naruto figurine for some time already, probably since last year. I couldn’t find this anywhere in Malaysia because it’s an exclusive/limited edition piece so I had no choice but to go through international sellers and they are all selling it at an exorbitant price between RM800 to RM1000. So, I just kept waiting and waiting for many months for someone to sell it at a fairer price …. and finally one day, I found a person selling it for RM500ish at E-Bay. Better yet, the seller is local.

However, the seller has 0 reviews and 0 track record. I was very hesitant to buy from an unrated seller at first. You know, it’s only normal that you fear online scams especially when an unrated seller is selling the item way below the market price. But i really wanted this item badly despite the seller’s condition of courier delivery only. So how? I e-mailed him to try my luck for COD (Cash on Delivery) where we could meet face to face to exchange the products. The next morning, he replied me with a wall of text mail, clearly explaining and giving me multiple options on how we could meet and what he will do to make sure everything will go smoothly despite the slight inconvenience for him to COD.

I was impressed by that mail. It was very detailed and thought through. I love it. I changed my mind immediately and transfer the money over to him via M2U without hesitation telling him i will want it to be delivered via courier instead. I was sold just by how he wrote the mail alone. Everything written in the mail is filled with effort.

Not only that but he also went through the trouble to change courier service that he usually use just to make sure my item is delivered right at the timing i requested (Saturday morning). He could have just shoved me off and asked me to wait for few days longer with whichever courier he is using. I don’t mind waiting to be honest since i have waited for months for this piece already so what’s few days more. But this guy here is actually worrying the timing for me. He also requested me to feedback him about the courier service because he wanted to know how punctual they are since he is trying them out for the first time.

Not only this person put in Effort to make sure the whole transaction goes smoothly but also the immense Care for every part of the selling process including the quality of courier which i think most sellers will neglect after passing the package over.

Anyway, i thought about the whole idea of ‘effort’ and ‘care’ while driving and i think the moral of the story is quite worth sharing.

  1. Always put in a lot of effort in everything you do from step A to Z. Others may not see or realized all the effort you put in but the truth is when you put in effort, it is more on helping yourself rather than pleasing others. It helps you to become a better person and naturally it will be reflected in your work and everything you do which eventually will come back to impress others. It is quite paradoxical actually – to be not obsessed about certain quality which it will come back to help you.
  1. Again, don’t do things or put in effort just to seek approval/recognition/praise from other people. You are doing it for yourself. For example, people read to fulfill their own curiosity, not to look for praises for their acquired knowledge. Likewise for putting in effort and care. When you build something so strong inside you, it will eventually be reflected to the outer world. You are missing the point if you only care for external validations rather than building yourself up. Nothing bad will come out when you give your 100% all the time. Putting in effort builds your personality.
  1. Just like Naruto, never give up and keep searching and wait patiently for the right one. I mean, the right seller. Sometimes, you will get nothing from being patient. But sometimes patience does pay off if you know what exactly you are waiting for. And when it pays off, the reward you get could be multi fold.

I have not been so impressed with an online seller before. So I left the seller a 5-star review, his first ever review from a buyer on E-Bay, and I M2U him another RM10 as tips for the good service. I have soft spots for people who does his or her business so sincerely and i hope he will have the luck to go big soon. (well because the success of business ultimately rely on some form of luck. Effort is basically getting ready to maximise everything when the luck strikes. Many people are not ready to take full advantage when luck arrives due to minimal effort)

Anyway enough of rants, have a look at this piece of beauty already. This will probably be the last Uzumaki Naruto figurine i will buy for myself. Looking forward to the pre-ordered figures I placed for Shikamaru, Itachi and Roronoa Zoro that will be coming between July-September.

 

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Written by elan85

May 16, 2015 at 10:29 pm

Posted in Personal, Philosophy

Ronn’s Super Logic to Happiness: Lessons from fat people

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I was watching a TV show the other day, not sure what’s the name again but it was some IQ-lowering bimbo show which i will never  want to watch again.

There was this part of the show where somebody called this girl fat. And she dished out a statement which I swear I have heard countless of times coming out from female’s mouth (or social media statuses).

“I’m very happy with who I really am and my size.  People have no right to comment about my body and should just keep the opinion to themselves. Who are they to tell me what I should or should not do?”

And I thought there was something not right with her tone. If she is REALLY happy with her body shape, why is she sounding so pissed and so desperately defending her ego? Happy people always accept who they truly are and care less about what other people say or think.

Aha! Maybe she’s not really happy. Just words to disguise her true feelings. Like a mask. Pretending that she is not hurt by the words.

In the past, there were people commenting that I have boring sense of fashion. I laughed it off and thought that they were pretty true. I’m OK and happy with simple and plain fashion. So their words weigh almost nothing to me. And then some people commented that I have skinny fat. That took me quite aback. I immediately halved my rice intake ever since and started going swimming to lose that tummy while gaining some body mass.

But rarely will I go into denial mode telling the world that I’m happy yet feeling pissed at the same time.

It could be because I’m a guy, who usually cares less about many things. Or maybe because unconsciously, I’ve been applying a logic flow in my head to solve problems. Now, let me share with you the secret of having daily happiness – I call it Ronn’s Super Logic to Happiness.

Let’s use fat people as example again. Let’s say you are fat.

STEP 1

Someone calls you fat. Is the statement true?

– IF NO. Either the person who calls you fat is hallucinating or you are in denial. Make sure it is not you.

– IF YES. Goto Step 2

STEP 2

Look yourself in the mirror again. Are you truly happy with your body size when people label you as fat?

– YES. I’m super happy. I have embraced my fatness since long time ago and I always laugh along when people call me fat. I eat that burger now.

– NO. Actually, deep down, I really want to be slim and look good. Goto Step 3

STEP 3

FIX IT. You need to do something about it to fix the problem and make a change. Eat less, more exercise. Conscious efforts.
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EMBRACE IT. If after attempts to fix it but still not working, then you will have to learn on how to embrace and accept it as part of your life with pride. 

IF YOU DO NOTHING. If you are not happy yet not doing anything about it or refuse to embrace it- You will be trapped in a perpetual state of limbo being confused with life, not knowing what exactly you want, wondering why the world and people are so cruel with words, starting to not give a shit about people yet at the same time craving or hoping for acknowledgement from others. You will never be happy because you are perpetually confused with everything but hope that someday things will turn out fine.

Nope. Fairytale does not magically happen in life.

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IMO, the toughest part of using Ronn’s Super Logic is the ability to look at the mirror and be 101% completely honest with oneself. The rest are pretty easy. We have been lying to ourselves so frequently on daily basis that we convieniently forget about our true self. The habit could be so bad that some people are always in denial about things. Or unaware what the true reality is. Like you know …. those people who auditioned for American Idol, got booed off by Simon Cowell, and still they think they are one of the best singers around. Best example ever.

Ronn’s Super Logic to Happiness can be applied everywhere across your life with the same 3 steps model –

1. Is It True?

2. Are you Happy?

3. No – Then fix it.  If it can’t be fixed, then accept it. 

Imagine some accusations I’m about to throw at you. (like typical aunties and uncles always do). Which makes you unhappy? Fix it with Ronn’s Super Logic of Happiness!

– You are not successful in your career!

– Why your boyfriend/girlfriend so boring one?

– You are not matured! Still acting like a small kid

– Why you always dress like a grandma/grandpa?

Some people believe that opinion of other people does not matter. But not for me. I always listen to all comments/feedback/opinion/criticism of others about myself. I like the harsh truths where I can judge for myself if the statement holds water or not. Or if the statement matters. If statement not true, ignore. If true, then act or fix the problem accordingly. Avoiding the reality and lying to oneself is the biggest sin someone can do to themselves.

Happy New Year, and hope this will help you to achieve all of your 2014 resolutions. Peace.

“Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.”
~Tyrion Lannister (when he was called a dwarf)

Written by elan85

December 31, 2013 at 5:47 pm

Posted in Philosophy

Managing Talents : 3 Levels of Motivations

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Helping people to succeed

One of the things I, unexpectedly, enjoyed doing a lot in my work at SAYS is shaping up the dynamics of the team I’m in (the Campaign team). Especially recently where the team is sort of growing slightly bigger, I had to rethink of how to effectively manage a group of young and talented individuals. Not easy since I always see myself as a pretty individualistic person and now I have to put on the lens of a team player.

I spent some time during my long break thinking about what was the most effective ways to get everyone in the team to sort of auto-pilot themselves to excel in their roles without needing to micro-manage them. And the answer I discovered was really simple actually, it is – ‘Helping everyone in the team to succeed’.

The upside of ‘Helping people to succeed’ is pretty immense. I could easily list out hundreds of reasons why this philosophy is powerful when applied to the team – Eg. They get happier doing what they like to do. They get better at what they are doing. They will enjoy the roles they are playing. They grow and become better individuals. They look forward to come to work everyday.  They feel purposeful. And 94 more other reasons. But one of the biggest upsides is that by genuinely want to help other people to succeed,  I will naturally push myself to go to a higher level.  As a result, it will make me to be an even better team player. Plus, I’m also a believer of Karma – When you helped someone to succeed, over time, they will help you back to succeed one way or other.

However, there’s one problem – Not everyone share the same level of motivation. Why is motivation important? Because if there’s no motivation, the philosophy of ‘helping people to succeed’ will be rendered useless due to these three essential life philosophies :

  1. Nobody can help you, if you don’t help yourself
  2. When you are ready to learn, a teacher will appear
  3. You reap what you sow

So, yes, I have been pretty fortunate working alongside very talented and motivated individuals so far.

Understanding an individual’s potential

In the last few months, I have learned how to move individuals around the team based on these three factors:

1. Motivation level

2. Skill level

3. Confidence level

The sum of all these three factors will determine how well an individual function in the team. They are all important, but yet, they are not equally as important.

Every individual has his/her own set of strengths and weaknesses. But I think that’s secondary because roles can be arranged and moved them around to play on their strengths. I have also seen people who are motivated and talented but severely lack confidence in their ability to execute their roles properly. However, with the right methods and patience, you can always help someone to accelerate their confidence level. But motivation level is more special. Motivation is always more important than anything else, because motivation is something either they have it or they don’t. You can’t change, do or help anything in an individual’s motivation, at least in a short time frame. And that’s the reason why, I rate motivation very highly in workplace.

3 Level Of Motivations

Based on my observation, I succinctly narrowed down motivations to 3 levels :

Level 1 Motivation: Intrinsically Motivated

Level 2 Motivation: Extrinsically Motivated

Level 3 Motivation: Not Motivated

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Level 1 Motivation: Intrinsically Motivated

Characteristics: These individuals are often the most exciting and easiest to work with. They aim high. They are very passionate in the role, industry, or company there are in. Individuals who are intrinsically motivated will propel their energy inside out. When an individual is intrinsically motivated, he/she by default will be extrinsically motivated too.  (The inner world reflects the outer world)

  • Accept challenges, eager to learn and grow
  • Attempt to be the best at what they do
  • Driven, passionate, strong sense of succeeding

Level 2 Motivation: Extrinsically Motivated

Characteristics: They are not motivated to be the best at whatever they do. Growth is not a priority. However, they do care about the team, about the company progress and the roles they are in. They love their job, but have stronger and high priority outside of the work scope (family, other interests, etc)

  • Routine activities and tasks
  • Stable and predictable roles

Level 3 Motivation: Not Motivated

Characteristics:  Some individuals are not motivated to grow. And they are not concerned about the roles they are in, about the team and about the company. They are working for the sake of working. They are probably strongly motivated in other areas outside of the company but for some reason, just somehow end up at this place.

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Understanding the level of motivation is important because

1. You will know who you should spend more time with.

2. You will know who will fit in which role and who’s not and three

3. You will know who to rely on for challenging tasks.

Understand all of these can help to shape the dynamics of the team to be much better. It’s sort of like a decision tree to move talents around and assigning the right tasks for them. For example:

  • Assign high level and challenging tasks or special projects to Level 1
  • Assign day to day important tasks to Level 2
  • Assign tedious and repetitive tasks to Level 3
  • If you assign a challenging task to Level 3, it will be a disaster.
  • If you assign a tedious tasks to a Level 1, in long run, there will bound to be unhappiness.
  • If you are spending a lot of time attempting to sharpen Level 3’s skills, you are probably wasting your time.
  • If you are not giving ownership to Level 1 in the task/role they are doing, you will probably not see the person’s full potential
  • If you are expecting a Level 2 to effectively lead the entire team, it will most likely be not effective.
  • Etc.

How to help people to succeed (especially Level 1 individuals)

1. Spend the majority of time helping/coaching them to horn their skills

2. Entrust the important roles to them. Give them ownership.

3. Empower and support them to do whatever they think is necessary for the outcome

4. Always be ready to step in to help solve problems/crisis simply because they are the biggest risk takers.

5. A leader must always be optimistic and positive. And always put 100% trust in them.

You have to trust your team-mates. Always. If you can’t trust your teammates, you are lost.” – Eric Cantona

Are An All Star Team = Success?

Now, some would think, let’s get all only Level 1 individuals and the company will thrive.

I don’t believe in that. I believe there should be a balance between the 3 Levels – Simply because there will always be mid to low level tasks which nobody will want to do.  Not every tasks is equally as exciting. Important  but tedious tasks exist in this universe.  Hence, the need to tinker around based on different individual’s motivation. So, I would say the ratio should be around

Level 1 – 50%

Level 2 – 40%

Level 3 – 10%

(Depending on what’s the function of the department. And i would also agree if the team to go without any Level 3 .)

Written by elan85

January 14, 2013 at 12:09 am

Posted in Management, Philosophy

When religious law within politics interferes with society.

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I was browsing Reddit as usual and apparently there was a hot debate at the moment in America – should abortion be legalized? As expected, Conservatives politicians will say No based on religious ground and Liberal politicians will say Yes based on secular ground.

And then Obama came out with the following statement, which I thought to be pretty inspiring ….

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That’s right. Subject to argument and amenable to reason. Universal value. And the reason of the separation of church and state in earlier American history. (Apparently, Socrates was forced to kill himself when he advocated this same idea in ancient Greek history)

From Malaysia’s context, I think the recent case where Erykah Badu’s concert got banned because of the (impermanent) Allah tattoo for one of her album art covers highlighted exactly why religious law interference is logically appalling. I will explain why.

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What enraged most non-Muslim Malaysians is it does not make sense to pass on an Islamic law which blanket every Malaysians when clearly not all of us are Muslims. Maybe 60+% of Malaysians will be offended, but the rest of 40% of people may not comprehend why it is offensive at all. Of course it is important to respect Muslims’ view, but respect is always both ways. Some people call it tolerance. So, why impose something which non-Muslim don’t believe on? Why not just disallow Muslims but it is ok for non-Muslim to go for her concert just like casino and pubs? Just a thought.

One man’s meat is another man’s poison. What offends one man, might not necessarily will offend the other. Why treat it as though we are all offended?

Of course, Malaysia has been generous to non-Muslims by giving us plenty of freedom, and i recognized that, but the occasional religious interference doesn’t really make sense. Just like France disrespect Muslims there by banning hijab, i think most non-Muslim Malaysians are feeling the same when these moral police go on banning spree which affects non-Muslim. Of course, the degree of severity is different but the gist of it is the same.

I never believe in religion and divine power. However, I respect everyone has their own belief system. I just think religion should be an individual personal relationship with God. Let God judge if an individual is right or wrong. When moral polices act and impose beliefs on behalf of God, and tell us what is right and wrong through media and politics, I’m skeptical. Very skeptical.

And lastly, here’s one of my all time favourite intelligent video by Richard Dawkins who discussed about religious morality vs secular morality. He just said it all.

Written by elan85

March 2, 2012 at 1:34 am

Posted in Atheism, Philosophy

The Rocking Chair and The Infinite Cycle of Life

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Years ago, I read a story of an old Chinese tycoon who wrote a poem of how he enjoyed his old age by just sitting leisurely on his rocking chair everyday –  OK, long story short, basically, the rocking chair IS his happiness. What was the problem with this guy, I thought. He has his whole freaking business empire and all the money in the world, but what he only cared at that moment is sitting on his rocking chair everyday? Really? I don’t understand his point of view, until one day … when I came across some Facebook profiles of 13/14 years old kids and that’s when the realization crept in when I saw the contrast of life.

When I first came across these kids’ Facebook profile, I was mega curious of how teenagers  create and form thoughts and opinions at their age. Probably because I forgot how I did it myself last time around like 10 years ago. And so, I stalked these kids, like a pedophile, spying on their thoughts.

What I found was – the things they cared about and the things which bothered/emo’ed them are actually quite trivial to be considered a problem in my opinion.Things like homework, boys having fun by playing with chalk and duster in the classroom, their keychain broke and they emo because it was a gift from their besties, puppy love, i-don’t-want-to-be-friend-with-you etc. And of course, I was looking from the perspective of a guy who is in my mid-20’s. The maturity in me surely do allow me to see some things in which they can’t.

Hence this brought me the thought – I wonder, when I reach my 40s, will it be my turn to see things  that I cared about during my 20s were actually trivial and meaningless? When I reach my 80s, will I get to see the things that I cared about during my 40s were actually trivial and meaningless? And so on.

All these lead to the ultimate question – Is our life an infinite cycles of caring-about-trivial-things-and-then-realized-it-is-not-important-at-all as we grow older? When I’m 80, will I also reach to a stage where I’m just happy to have a rocking chair with me and everything else is no longer important?

From another angle, it seems all these are life experience which we will have to go through. It is a must, there’s no escape for we have to go through the human process of study-work-career-family-children. Just like the rich tycoon, he has achieved everything, nothing left more to be done, so he retreated to his rocking chair. However, I’m curious, if we will ultimately come to a stage where we are just happy with a rocking chair after going through all these infinite cycles, why not we just jump straight to the end and skip all the cycles? Why not just learn how to be content and love a rocking chair in our 20s and forget about everything else? Because ultimately, as mentioned, you will BE content at the end of the day and all pursuits are just illusions.

I realize the stumbling block for this is the ‘Expectation’. The demand that we live a ‘meaningful’ life, to have wealth, to have a good career, relationships, achievement, etc which explains the inevitable path which we will have to take – study-work-career-family-children which lead to this infinite cycle. We will keep demanding from ourselves, cared about the small little things, and as we grow older with more experience, we will move to a higher cycle and the level of demand will move up accordingly and we cared for slightly more significant little things. This process will just keep repeating over and over again until the day we cease our demand, cease to care for trivial things, and alas, content with the rocking chair. That’s typically when we are about to die, 70/80 years old.

I do not against living life meaningfully. Afterall, each individual have different values on what’s a meaningful life and what’s not. But I think we should ask ourselves this question more frequently with bigger awareness – Do the things we cared about today will still be important when we reach our 80s?

 

Written by elan85

December 1, 2010 at 12:59 pm

Posted in Philosophy

Unconditional Love

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  • Why do people help each other? What is the motivation behind the act of helping?
  • For people who understand evolutionary psychology, the answer is apparent – we help each other for selfish purposes. We inherently seek reciprocation with other human beings.
  • Reciprocation is an essential behaviour in human and the primates. It is a very sophisticated method of teamwork to ensure our own survival. I help you and you help me. I scratch your back and you scratch my back.
  • People often delude themselves into thinking that they are helping other people out of their own own kindness – They believe they are compassionate, sympathetic and well, good people, and that’s why they help the others.
  • FALSE! If only human being is such simple creature.
  • Every time we help someone, there’s always an underlying motivation lurking behind. When we help someone, there’s always this ‘expectation’ that this person will help us back in the future when we need it.
  • Hence, this is the reason why we dislike people taking our help for granted. We love to be appreciated when we offer our help to the others. We expect the other side to give back when we need it.
  • What I want to point out here is simple – our intention to help others is not as ‘Pure’ as we thought.
  • However, there is a group of people who, most of them, practice unconditional love. They are parents.
  • Parents are one of the few groups of people in this world where they could just give, give, give and give without expecting any returns.
  • Thinking very objectively, this phenomenon is rather amazing. Why do most parents care more for their own children than the neighbor’s children? Why do parents love their own children more than the neighbor’s children? Aren’t all of them children?
  • Hence, in some ways, although parents practice unconditional love to children, it is actually a very ‘selective’ unconditional love. They only love and prioritize their own children. Period.
  • Again, this intention of love, is selfish and not 100% pure.
  • I have a theory that every single action and intention of ours when interacting with other people, to some extent, are motivated by an underlying selfish desire. Well, I know this is not a new theory since Dawkins have already been talking about it in the book “The Selfish Genes”.
  • What are the three amazing lessons I learned from this observation?
    • How amazingly human are hardwired to value reciprocation, a more sophisticated level of cooperation for survival purposes. Some group of animals practice cooperation such as lions, bees, oxen, hyena, etc but none of them are as sophisticated as the behaviour of reciprocation practiced in human being.
    • How amazing human is programmed and hardwired to dislike people who do not value our help/love or people who took our help/love for granted. How we are motivated to help. How we always expect people to return the favour. How all these programmed mind-set work since birth without being thought by anyone.
    • Parents, who have the capacity to provide unconditional love, only limit their love towards their own family but could not extend this boundless love to other children and people.
  • A two cent question – Will human mind ever evolve, get enlightened and break this non-purity barrier? What if everyone does not have this love barrier? Wouldn’t it be a better world? Can human develop a pure mind as comparable to Buddha and love everyone without boundary and barrier? 
  • I believe we can only call our intention pure when it comes to a day when we help and love other people out of joy, compassion and kindness without expecting any returns of favour. The intention of helping others because we want to be happy. Purity.

 

 

PS: Writing a full blown 1000-2000 words essay is mega tiring and time consuming. With this point form method, blogging will be fun again. From today onwards, I’m going to start using this point form method to write. Till then.

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September 7, 2009 at 4:56 pm

Posted in Philosophy, Psychology

Of Buddhism and The Philosophy of Decision Making

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It has been 5 years since the day I started studying Buddhism philosophy. Buddha is not a divine being. Like you and me, Buddha is just a human being, a mere mortal.

Buddha became enlightened after many years of searching for the meaning of life. Buddha knew the in and out of how human mind and the environment work. In Buddha’s world, there’s no magic, no miracle, no divine power but all can be explained by using logic, common sense and wisdom.

Even after 2,500 years, his wisdom is still applicable in many area of our life. Buddha’s words always make sense to me. It might sound audacious, but I strongly believe Buddhism philosophy played and will continue to play a huge part to advance and evolve our mind.

For this little meaningless anniversary, I dedicate this essay, on how Buddhism philosophy can be applied to something we do everyday – Making Decisions.

 

 

The Meaning of Choices

“Know well what leads you forward and what hold you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.” ~Buddha

Have you ever wished that sometimes, you do not want to make a choice? That if only things will fall and fit into places perfectly well without yourself putting much effort? As if an invisible hand helping you along, sort of like a miracle? 

The truth is, this world is not as rosy as we would love to imagine. Buddha made a point that this world is a struggle. The reality is harsh, rough and severe. You have to raise yourself up to a level where you have to take on challenges instead of letting challenges taking on you.

The world we are living in is a world where we constantly have constraint with resources. In other words, the world does not offer and give you what you want all the time.

To get something, you need to put in effort. If you keep hoping for things to happen miraculously then you are doing nothing but dreaming. The world will not give a damn about you, if you do not give a damn about putting effort. This is an eternal rule of cause and effect. If you do not love yourself, the world will not love you. If you do not put in effort on yourself, the world will not reward you.

Therefore, we have to make decisions and choices all the time.

In between choices, there will always be something to gain and there will always be something to lose. This is the law of equilibrium. The common sense is, if there’s all to gain but nothing to lose, then it is no longer called a choice – It will only merely be selection.

“Should I spend XXX amount of money to get a new handphone or a gaming gadget? Should I start my own business or should I not?” If everyone has plenty of resources and has plenty of money, then there’s no longer  a need to make a choices – they could get anything they want and all these are merely up for selection. But the truth is, 99.99% of the people in this world probably do not have this privilege of without needing to make a choice.

Choice is something we have to go through on a daily basis. It is inevitable. Therefore, I will go through each of the important elements when making choices and coming up with a decision.

Effort vs Luck

"The unwise wait for a lucky day but every day is a lucky day for a diligent man." ~Buddha

Some people choose to ignore choices and actions but instead, hoping for LUCK to shine on them. They wish for things to fall right in front of their feet, expecting life would be easy. Essentially, this does very little to help because they are only relying on FATE and LUCK for things to happen. Relying on fate and luck is a bad idea because luck is always beyond our control. Fate and luck may happen right now, or it may never ever happen. You never know. If living in uncertainty makes you happy, by all means, submit yourself to fate and luck.

If uncertainty is not the way of your life, then you will need to create our own luck by putting in Effort. Make things happen with your own hands. Do your best. Never give up.

Remember, the world will not give a damn about you, if you do not give a damn about putting in effort. If you do not give a damn about making choices but only hoping for the best to happen by chances, then that’s also how life will treat you – by giving you random fate and luck to your life and you have no choice but to live in it.

This is all part of the Karma system – The cause and effect.

Fantasy vs Logic

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment ~Buddha

 

One inherent habit in every man is to perpetually dream about the future. Not a bad thing considering dreams move the world forward and push human mind to evolve. However, it is equally important to understand the danger of ‘over-dreaming’.

Human often love to think ahead. This indirectly create a bad habit – we love to fantasize of the possible outcome  while making choices. And the bad part ? We often struck down by fear when fantasizing the outcome of the choices.

As have been studied in Pyschology field, the mind has a strong self-defense mechanism for self-preservation purposes. The mind persistently give out negative thoughts so that we will not do anything risky which will potentially harm ourselves mentally and physically. The mind often tell you – “What if I do this and fail? What if this does not turn out to be as expected? What if I lose money doing this? What if people laugh at me? I will be embarrassed!

Recognize that these thoughts are nothing but just pure fantasy. Why do I say fantasy?

You are in the present, and the future is yet to come. Your mind creates some fantasy about the future, and you believe in your fantasy without any hesitant. You religiously believe in your “prediction”, thus, conveniently stop yourself from taking actions with all these negative thoughts. Nonsense! You don’t predict the future … you create the future!

Hence, Buddha’s advice ‘Focus on the Present moment’.

But does it really mean you should not think ahead about the future? It is true Buddha did say ‘do not dream of the future’, but in a deeper implication, what Buddha meant was – Do not get obsessed with your fantasy but think what is remain do be done RIGHT NOW to bring yourself forward.

As Buddha said, “Your thoughts today creates your tomorrow.” Why should you be over-concern about tomorrow? What really matter is doing something meaningful today, RIGHT NOW, so that you will have a better tomorrow.

To Do vs Not To Do and Happiness

“"You will always be getting praise and blame, but do not let either affect the poise of the mind." ~Buddha

 

When one uses Logic to make a decision on whether to do something or not, then the choices are pretty clear – it is either Yes or NoDo It or Don’t Do It. Period. There’s no need to over-think.

How do you know whether should you say Yes or No? To do or not to do? Simple. Go back to the Buddha’s basic rule of life – to be happy. You got to make a decision which you will not have any regrets at all in the future. If deep down inside, you know you will be saying, “Damn, if only I did/didn’t do it”, then that’s a bad decision. It is a form of suffering because you leave yourself hanging in uncertainty and regrets.

“Should I take on entrepreneur path and make million of dollars?” If you are perfectly content not living a luxurious life, think money is just an illusion, that money can’t buy you some things you want in life, then by all means the answer NO is your good answer.

However, when there are doubts and something inside is bugging you when you say NO, that you think you are deceiving and lying to yourself, then NO is not a good answer. It is an answer which will make you suffer from remorse for the rest of your life. Hence, in this way, the only answer which will potentially bring you more happiness is the answer YES.

This is how reasonably simple to use logic to make a GOOD decision.

You might think, “What if I do/didn’t do, and it proves that I’m wrong? What if my decision is a failure? Should this a enough reason not to do it?”

1. Read Fantasy vs Logic again

2. Read Attainment vs Failure below

Attainment vs Failure

“What Comes To You, Comes From You” ~Buddha~

Remember when you craved for something so badly but once you got it, you don’t feel the same craving anymore? Because in the mind, the feeling of Craving is always stronger than Attaining.

Every time we crave for something and try to reach our hand to grab it to our side, whether it is wealth, achievement, love, or gadgets, there is always a universal law governing this act of attainment. What this universal law says is simple – if you try to get anything which is not yours to your side, there’s a chance you will fail and not getting it.

If you do not have wealth, and you try to move wealth to your side, you might succeed in gaining but there’s a chance you may not make it in the first few attempts or ever. If you try to grab a girl’s heart to your side, you might succeed but you may also fail.

Failure is inevitable in life simply because we have to make so many choices all the time. Remember the universal law – the universe does not give you everything you want. And more, the universe does not give a damn if we are not happy about it because the world does not have emotions. The world is neutral.

This fear of failure itself is what hinders people from taking actions. And fear is wrong. You can only get this much of the things that you want by not taking actions, hoping for things to fall perfectly well. However if you take actions, the chances of you getting what you want will naturally double, triple or perhaps quintuple.

The emotion of fear should not exist in human mind. It’s destructive. Instead, the right way to think – To embrace reality and embrace failure. Accept the reality that if you are trying to get something which is not yours to your side, you may gain … but you may also fail. This is just the way how reality works – Yin and Yang. To have success, is to have failure. 

If you try, at least you have a tiny chance to succeed. If you do not try, then failure is absolutely 101%

Conclusion

One quote to sum it all ……

"Cast off pretense and self-deception and see yourself as you really are." ~Buddha

Form is emptiness, emptiness is form.

Written by elan85

August 23, 2009 at 12:23 am

Posted in Philosophy